“When you do not seek or need external approval, you are at your most powerful.” Carolyn Myss- Sacred Contracts: Awakening Your Divine Potential
The quote from Carolyn Myss above really grabbed my attention as I was reading her book yesterday about finding your own sacred contract with the world. I felt as if those words really leapt off the page because I feel as if the two big events that happened in my life this year: the closure of the meal platform Josephine.com and the closure of the coffee shop were really trying to grab my attention in a major way and were there to teach me some really profound and important lessons about my life.
The Traditional Path VS. Your Personal Path:
I used to think that there was a certain progression in careers or callings in which you needed to follow a specific path or ladder upward in order to appear and feel successful. To me, that was running/owning my own cafe, bakery or restaurant. As I have gone along my path I don’t feel as if anyone but myself has pressured me to pursue these traditional avenues. I feel as if the external approval I was seeking was actually coming from myself. I have always put lots of pressure on myself to achieve. When I took the strengths-finder test I found that one of my highest scores was in the “achiever” category. I have always been very driven to study hard, work hard, set goals and get wherever I felt I needed to go to be successful. I don’t believe anymore that because I haven’t achieved this goal that I am deemed unsuccessful, I truly believe in my heart that there are other things left to explore and other things left that I am truly meant to do, so if I remain closed to only this one idea, I will have lost the ability to explore and to make a difference.
I believe still that these are great traits to have, to be willing to work hard towards something that is very valuable to you in life. However, I now see that my path is not linear. My path is a winding, twisting, moss-covered, beautifully uneven path through a forest like the one pictured above from a camping trip I went on to a beautiful lake.
Changing my character:
As I spoke about in my last post about changing your story, I am also working on changing my character to accommodate those twists and turns, to explore lots of different paths and side roads along the way. I can now see that exploring and becoming an explorer instead of just a linear achiever will serve me so much more on my path and allow me to help others as well.
I am learning to say yes to exploring lots of different opportunities and avenues for the work that I love and different ways that I can help people find their own paths as well. I believe that we all have forces that are either coming from ourselves or others that keeps us in a small world whereas the actual world and reality are limitless! I choose today to explore and see what comes up on my beautiful forest path and I hope you will too.
Update: As a result of becoming more of an explorer I have recently found some opportunities that are more of a match for me and the life I want to live and how I can help others. I will keep you all posted on those!
Questions for you:
What path are you on in life?
2. What changes in your mindset or character can you make to make that path more enjoyable for you?
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